More Newlyweds are Cheating

A recent article on CBS News reported that more and more newlyweds are cheating on their new spouses. Researchers at the University of Washington Center for the Study of Health and Risk Behaviors found that roughly 20% of men and 15% of women under the age of 35 cheated on their spouses. These percentages are up from 15% and 12% respectively, 15 years prior. I bet the percentages are a lot higher. Stats on adultery are very hard to collect, since most people who are unfaithful don't admit to it. The article goes on to give several reasons why... such as intimacy problems, the Internet, power struggles, heavy drinking, communication issues, the sudden adjustment from 'me' to 'we', and commitment problems.

I agree, for the most part that all the reasons are contributing to adultery... however, I believe that lack of sex is probably the biggest reason

• Intimacy problems = no sex


• Looking at Internet porn (pissed off wife) = no sex


• Power struggles (pissed off wife) = no sex


• Heavy drinking (pissed off wife) = no sex


• Communication issues (pissed off wife) = no sex


• Sudden adjustment of realizing that you are forever committed to someone who won't give you sex = no sex!

More and more young married people are not standing for no sex and bad feelings in their marriages. However, instead of turning the blame to where it squarely belongs... on the shoulder's of the partner who is acting badly.. let's all talk around the issue and not look at it for what it is. I guarantee that divorce rates are going to only climb as people, in this 'it's all about me' society, suddenly awaken that their sex lives depends SOLELY on their partner. And if their partner is purposefully withholding sex because they don't feel like it for days, weeks, months +++... then they will simply go get it from someone else. Plus, this other person (the affair partner) makes the married man (or woman) feel good about themselves, feel wanted, feel loved... too bad the married man's wife (or husband) wasn't capable of give the cheating partner those feelings - if he/she had, then most likely the cheating husband/wife would have never cheated on them to begin with. But, no! We can't SAY that!! That would be blaming the VICTIM! And in this society of 'victims' that is socially unacceptable. So in fact, the victims are actually perpetrating their own 'victimization'

Married Folks ARE NOT Healthier than Single Folks!

I knew it! I knew it! I knew it!

I have always pondered why studies have shown that married folks are healthier than singles. It just didn't seem logical to me, since marital stress and conflict are associated with coronary disease and higher mortality risk.

New, more realistic, studies are revealing that married people are NOT healthier than singles! (Ref: Psychology Today, Nov/Dec 08, Page 93).

Single people have a much more diverse relationship portfolio. Meaning, they DO have more sexual partners, maybe not AS MUCH sex as a married person, however, they have more partners - which is biologically more in line with how we (humans) are SUPPOSE to be living!

Also, past studies did NOT take into account the HUGE amount of stress that marriage causes. Women in hostile marriages have more coronary artery disease, while men in more controlling relationships (whether they are the dominator or the one getting bossed around) have more coronary artery disease than single men. Both situations likely activate stress responses, which are known to contribute to, if not cause, an array of ailments.