More Newlyweds are Cheating

A recent article on CBS News reported that more and more newlyweds are cheating on their new spouses. Researchers at the University of Washington Center for the Study of Health and Risk Behaviors found that roughly 20% of men and 15% of women under the age of 35 cheated on their spouses. These percentages are up from 15% and 12% respectively, 15 years prior. I bet the percentages are a lot higher. Stats on adultery are very hard to collect, since most people who are unfaithful don't admit to it. The article goes on to give several reasons why... such as intimacy problems, the Internet, power struggles, heavy drinking, communication issues, the sudden adjustment from 'me' to 'we', and commitment problems.

I agree, for the most part that all the reasons are contributing to adultery... however, I believe that lack of sex is probably the biggest reason

• Intimacy problems = no sex


• Looking at Internet porn (pissed off wife) = no sex


• Power struggles (pissed off wife) = no sex


• Heavy drinking (pissed off wife) = no sex


• Communication issues (pissed off wife) = no sex


• Sudden adjustment of realizing that you are forever committed to someone who won't give you sex = no sex!

More and more young married people are not standing for no sex and bad feelings in their marriages. However, instead of turning the blame to where it squarely belongs... on the shoulder's of the partner who is acting badly.. let's all talk around the issue and not look at it for what it is. I guarantee that divorce rates are going to only climb as people, in this 'it's all about me' society, suddenly awaken that their sex lives depends SOLELY on their partner. And if their partner is purposefully withholding sex because they don't feel like it for days, weeks, months +++... then they will simply go get it from someone else. Plus, this other person (the affair partner) makes the married man (or woman) feel good about themselves, feel wanted, feel loved... too bad the married man's wife (or husband) wasn't capable of give the cheating partner those feelings - if he/she had, then most likely the cheating husband/wife would have never cheated on them to begin with. But, no! We can't SAY that!! That would be blaming the VICTIM! And in this society of 'victims' that is socially unacceptable. So in fact, the victims are actually perpetrating their own 'victimization'

Infidelity in Public Marriages Tantalizes Us

I came across this article in the Tennessean by columnist Saritha Prabhu. In fact, I stole the her title! Well, I AM giving her credit for her well written article. Here are a few excerpts worth repeating..

"Why do accomplished women stay in their marriage with their unfaithful husbands? Indeed, why have Silda Spitzer, Elizabeth Edwards, David Vitter's wife, Ted Haggard's wife and others stayed on?" Duh, because she loves him and she is probably aware that there will always be women (or men) hot for her husband... and he is only human.

"What we've been seeing, though, is that, in general, men in power seem to have more illicit affairs than women in power. This isn't a sexist view but an empirical one. If Sen. Dianne Feinstein is chasing underage pages, I haven't read about it; if Speaker Pelosi has propositioned people in airport restrooms, there hasn't been a whiff of it. Likewise, if Sen. Olympia Snowe has a boy beau, no one has heard about it." Chances are these older ladies haven't had sex with their OWN husbands in ages, let alone any underage pages. Plus, men don't necessarily pursue OLDER ladies who no longer appear to be fertile.

"Not to condone cheating at all, but I feel that if the infidelity doesn't involve abuse of power or misuse of public money, it really is none of our business....Tellingly, in a recent poll, a majority of New Yorkers said they would now rather have the flawed Spitzer as governor than the ineffective David Paterson." Amen sister!

"While character is important, we can all agree that competence and intelligence are also what are most needed in the highest levels of power, but they, sadly, too often seem to be tied to reckless carnal appetites." Like I have always said, to the victor goes the spoils!

In the animal world, human no less than human, competition is intense. Males threaten, fight, and bluff one another in an effort to obtain access to females. The winner, the victor, the PRESIDENT... gets the FEMALES.

Females are naturally drawn to the winner. It's in our genes to procreate with the winner of the fight and it's in HIS genes to have sex with every fertile female who will have him. By condemning top public officials of having an extramarital affair, is to condone the very DRIVE and AMBITION that got him there!

Jon and Kate Plus 8 = INFIDELITY

According to several sources (Us Magazine and N.Y Post), one half of the reality couple (Jon and Kate plus 8) has been spotted around town minus HIS wedding ring and in the company of other women.  I could have predicted this!  Have you seen their show on TLC?  Kate is a real b__ch! She nags at him, belittles him, yells at him, and mocks his manhood on national tv!  Her verbal assaults are often material for the E! show TalkSoup.  Watch this clip of her ranting at Jon. She is the EXACT reason why most men have extra-marital affairs!  I don't know if she is playing it up for the ratings, or worse she is toning it DOWN for the censors.  Nevertheless, Jon apparently has had enough and I don't blame him.  

Nevada governor in divorce court, accused of infidelity with two women

I fail to see why the public is so incredibly outraged about public officials and their infidelity. Men go into public service expressly for the power that is inheritant in a high position. These men are risk takers and achievers, and usually good looking. They possess all the qualities that make them utterly irresistible to women. There is no shortage of married and single women who would gladly have an affair with a high ranking official in order to unite his sperm with her egg and hopefully produce an offspring with his desirable qualities. Of course, she isn't think of this when she is involved an affair, but ultimately that is what drives most affairs involving Presidents, Governors, etc. Having sex with a powerful man is a powerful feeling. So, what are men to do? They are biologically programmed to have sex with every female that will allow them... Is it their fault that women are making themselves available to them, much more than the to the average 'man'? I believe that the public is so enraged, because secretly they (the public) wish it could happen the them. We don't like it when someone else is getting something we want. Politicians have it all.... money, power, beautiful wife, and now, he has a mistress too!! That is unacceptable, off with his head!! He cannot have MORE than us! Of course, I am joking. Privately, I bet most men are mentally high-fiving the Governor, after all, to the victor goes the spoils. Plus, men know darn well, that if they were Governor Gibbons and an ex-Playboy bunny was hitting on them.. that they would 'hit' that too. However, our society likes to take the high road and look down our crooked noses at others who trespass on our 'morality' - even if we secretly wish we could trod on that road traveled by those more daring and good-looking.

Peter Cook - Unjustly Persecuted in the Court of Public Opinion

During a recent interview with Barbara Walters, Peter Cook was frank and honest about his extra martial affair with a 19 year old. All the networks and some daytime shows (The View) had great delight in tearing him apart and diminishing his explanation as 'waaa waaa waaa'. For some inexplicable reason, most women just don't GET IT. It doesn't matter if you look like a super model, if you a raving b___ch behind CLOSED doors, your man WILL cheat on you. NOBODY except a husband and wife really knows what happens (or most likely, DOESN'T happen) behind BEDROOM doors. Maybe Christie hadn't had sex with him for months, or years (believe me that DOES happen), maybe she belittled him and berated him, or worse, ignored him all together. If a man does not feel respected as a person, wanted as a lover, or needed as provider then he is RIPE for an affair with someone who DOES admire him as a person, lover, and possible provider. Apparently, the 19 year old filled all or at least some of these requirements. I do blame Christie for his affair, just as I almost always blame wives for their husband's infidelities. Lastly, if a wife is doing her job at home (making sure her husband's 'respected, wanted, and needed' cup is overflowing) then he is nearly 100% LESS likely to cheat on her. http://www.annenoble.com/